COUPLES THERAPY: MYTHS VS. FACTS
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter
Sometimes, couples who seek therapy are facing difficulties that are especially challenging, and they may even be on the brink of divorce. Other times, couples simply come to fine-tune an already solid relationship.
Unfortunately, people’s inaccurate preconceived notions of therapy prevent them from seeking the professional help they need.
A therapist will try to get inside my head and dig up every past wrong I’ve done.
Getting into your head and digging up the entire past is not helpful. I do not make you feel like you are being analyzed “Freud style” on the couch. I use scientifically proven strategies that work and provide the framework for positive conversations.
A therapist can’t help but choose a side and allow one partner to vent out all their feelings. The therapist will then point out all my failings.
I do not allow couples to endlessly vent. I am like a marriage “coach” and I am in your corner as you talk to each other. I do not choose one partner over the other. In fact, I consider the “relationship” itself to be my primary priority and my true client.
Couples therapy is a waste of time and I will hate it.
Couples often leave my office saying “that was not as bad as I thought” and that they wish they had pursued couples therapy much sooner.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Caralee Frederic, LCSW, has practiced as a private couples and individual therapist in Colorado, specializing in marriage and family counseling, for almost 20 years. Founder of Principle Skills Relationship Center, Caralee is also a Certified Gottman Therapist, presenter of ‘The Art and Science of Love‘ couples workshop, and a Certified Sexual Addiction Recovery Therapist.