A quiet “I’m sorry” or a simple “Can we try again?” can sometimes change the direction of a conflict. Yet in many couples, even sincere repair attempts are rejected or misunderstood. Understanding why repair fails — and how therapists can help it succeed — can...
Many people assume the structure of the Gottman Method limits emotional connection. In practice, it often does the opposite — creating the safety couples need to speak honestly, stay engaged, and make real progress together. Occasionally I hear therapists or couples wonder whether the Gottman Method...
Why Distinguishing High Conflict From Abuse Is Critical Many couples and therapists use the term “high conflict” interchangeably with abuse — but these are very different dynamics with very different clinical implications. Mislabeling conflict as abuse (or vice versa) can lead to ineffective treatment, unsafe therapy...
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW Gottman Therapist Presenter & Trainer Unlock Your Brain’s Potential As therapists, we all want the same thing: to give our clients the very best care. And that starts with how we learn. The Gottman Method is one of the most respected, research-backed approaches to...
How does The Gottman Method work in couples counseling? Case Study 1 Empty Nesters This particular couple had many strengths in their relationship and it was a fun delight to congratulate them on how well they had done over the years in building a happy marriage. Yet, they found...
I always knew I wanted to one day go into private practice, from the start of my career as a therapist. The independence, the opportunity for creativity, the chance to make my own schedule. When the time came to make that plunge from working in...
Por Caralee Frederic, LCSW; traducido por Lisett Walp, MFTC Ahora más que nunca, la información es abundante y fácilmente accesible. Hay un experto o un coach para todo: para tu trauma, tu carrera, tus amistades, tu matrimonio. Cada uno viene con sus propias instrucciones, garantías y...
Ambivalence in Marriage? Call in: Discernment Counseling By Caralee Frederic LCSW Tom is unsure whether his marriage will make it or not. He’s had an affair, he feels guilty, but he also feels some relief and uncertainty about whether he wants to work to make the marriage better. Janice,...
By Caralee Frederic LCSW Now, more than ever before, information is abundant and easily accessible. There’s an expert or a coach for everything–for your trauma, your career, for your friendships, for your marriage. They each come with their own instructions, assurances, recommendations. It’s a tumult of ideas...
It’s Far From a Secret The Gottman method of couples therapy is highly...
