Sometimes, couples who seek therapy are facing difficulties that are especially challenging, and they may even be on the brink of divorce. Other times, couples simply come to fine-tune an already solid relationship.
Unfortunately, people’s inaccurate preconceived notions of therapy prevent them from seeking the professional help they need.
Myth:
A therapist will try to get inside my head and dig up every past wrong I’ve done.
Fact:
Getting into your head and digging up the entire past is not helpful. I do not make you feel like you are being analyzed “Freud style” on the couch. I use scientifically proven strategies that work and provide the framework for positive conversations.
Myth:
A therapist can’t help but choose a side and allow one partner to vent out all their feelings. The therapist will then point out all my failings.
Fact:
I do not allow couples to endlessly vent. I am like a marriage “coach” and I am in your corner as you talk to each other. I do not choose one partner over the other. In fact, I consider the “relationship” itself to be my primary priority and my true client.
Myth:
Couples therapy is a waste of time and I will hate it.
Fact:
Couples often leave my office saying “that was not as bad as I thought” and that they wish they had pursued couples therapy much sooner.