What are you hoping to achieve with our finances? Independent wealth? Providing for sick parents? Legacy for children/grandchildren? Travel? Whatever it is, thinking about the end goal can help inform your decisions now. Also, talk about the lifestyle you want to live now. Living lavishly now AND later means a certain level of commitment to earning and time spent doing so. Wanting less time at work might mean living more frugally now or later, or both. There is no right or wrong answer, only what will work for both of you.
Armed with that basic understanding, you can begin to navigate a compromise. A good compromise does not mean winning and losing, it means both people walk away feeling honored by their core values. Core values are things you cannot sacrifice without building a certain level of resentment. Use the understanding you have to identify what your core values are vs. your areas of flexibility. For example, a core value might be having a decent savings account built up to feel secure in case of emergencies. An area of flexibility might be how much that is when it gets added to, and what constitutes an emergency. Take time to identify the few core values you have and the flexibility you have within them, then compare and discuss. Get creative with a compromise, and remember, the compromise is only temporary and can and should be adjusted as circumstances change.