If you’ve never had a full conversation about what it is your partner likes and doesn’t, then today is the day because it can be life-changing. You might know they don’t like X or Y, but maybe they’d be open to parts of it or other things you didn’t know about. Being open is a very vulnerable experience, so again you absolutely need to be respectful of what your partner’s interests are or you risk shutting the conversation down, and shutting you out, for good. An easy activity is Always, Sometimes, Never. Take a piece of paper each and divide it like the picture shows. Look at the list of sexual behaviors and divide it into each column (this is not an exhaustive list, simply the most common behaviors I see). Always are things that you’re always game for when you are in the mood for sex. Sometimes are things you may have to be in a special mood for, or might be interested in on certain occasions, but may not be interested in every single time you’re aroused. Never is something that is a hard limit. You are not interested, you cannot be persuaded. There might be things on the list that intrigue you but you have never tried. If you decide you want to try it, put it in sometimes. If you change your mind later, simply move it to Never. If you tried it and liked it, it can stay in Sometimes or move to Always. Now compare your lists. What commonalities do you see? How can you make that work for both of you?