By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Turn Gridlock Into Meaningful Dialogue Let’s de-clutter our lives of relationship gridlock — the perpetual arguments and contentiousness that stops us from moving forward in our most important relationships. In an earlier blog,
Criticism, One of the Four Horsemen. “Stay grounded,” I said to the couple in my office. “Don’t get on that horse.” What horse was in my third-floor office? This time it was Criticism, one of the Four Horsemen identified by Dr. John Gottman that predicts
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter “Less of Who You Should be, More of Who You Are.” I had the opportunity to be interviewed by Verilymag.com, a women’s fashion and lifestyle website. Its motto is “less of who you
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter (Excerpt from “How To Keep Love Going Strong” by John M. and Julie Gottman, yesmagazine.org, Jan. 3, 2011) Start with good manners when tackling your solvable problems: Step 1. Use a softened startup:
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” The Gottman Institute’s Family Research Laboratory, aka the “Love Lab,” completed six studies of couples that began with a hypothesis about factors leading to divorce. Based on
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter (Excerpt from “How To Keep Love Going Strong” by John M. and Julie Gottman, yesmagazine.org, Jan. 3, 2011) Enhance your love map: Emotionally intelligent couples are intimately familiar with each other’s world. They
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Surprise. Intrigue. Delight. Admiration. Romance. Perhaps even anger. Your partner may express a range of these emotions – at a very intense level – when you present him or her with this gift:
