Category: Gottman

couples therapy

‘DEFENSIVENESS’ is Offensive

By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter ‘DEFENSIVENESS’ IS OFFENSIVE Goal to Help Children Led to Specializing in Couples Therapy Defensiveness is one of the “4 Horsemen” that are predictors of relationship dissolution, according to marriage expert Dr. John Gottman.

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betrayal

A Proper and Meaningful Way to Say ‘I’M SORRY’

By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter A PROPER AND MEANINGFUL WAY TO SAY ‘I’M SORRY’ Successful Couples Master the Art of Apology The way you apologize after hurting your loved one determines whether healing will occur or hurtful feelings

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What Unhappy and Happy Couples Teach Us

By Caralee Frederic LCSW Elevate Your Love By Learning New Behaviors “If only I had known …. .” That is often the sentiment of divorced couples or couples in distressed relationships. As a marriage therapist and counselor for nearly 20 years, I’ve talked with couples

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What Criticism Means and Does to Relationships

By Caralee Frederic LCSW A criticism may sound like this: “You never want to do anything with me or join me in things that I enjoy doing. You’re just inconsiderate and selfish.” Criticism attacks the character of the person, and it can aggressively spiral downward

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Continuing Education

Why I Recommend Gottman’s Love Workshop

By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter WHY I BECAME A GOTTMAN COUPLES THERAPIST Whenever friends and clients ask me to recommend a couples weekend workshop, I always refer them to the Art and Science of Love, a couples workshop

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How Do I Know If I Am Or My Spouse Is An Intimacy Anorexic?

By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter The following questions are used to assess whether or not a person is an intimacy anorexic. 1. Would your spouse say that you stay so busy you have little time for him/her? 2.

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Couples Counseling

Gridlock Stopping You in Your Tracks?

By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Turn Gridlock Into Meaningful Dialogue Let’s de-clutter our lives of relationship gridlock — the perpetual arguments and contentiousness that stops us from moving forward in our most important relationships. In an earlier blog,

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Couples Counseling

Don’t Get On That Horse!

By Caralee Frederic LCSW Criticism, One of the Four Horsemen. “Stay grounded,” I said to the couple in my office. “Don’t get on that horse.” What horse was in my third-floor office? This time it was Criticism, one of the Four Horsemen identified by Dr.

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