WHAT IS IT LIKE TO LIVE WITH A SEX ADDICT FROM A PARTNER’S PERSPECTIVE?
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter
Partners living with a sex addicts often describe:
- Feelings of intense loneliness, distancing, confusion, deep hurt, and even betrayal.
- A sense of being disconnected, reaching and never being able to arrive at the heart of his or her spouse.
- A deep sense of rejection which often seeds feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.
- Repeated attempts to adapt to what he/she thinks the addicted spouse needs.
- Failure to achieve a sense of oneness or intimacy.
- Exacerbated confusion.
- A sense of hopelessness.
- Anger from his or her own unmet needs.
- Shame, low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety.
Sometimes, a partner may develop a reactive form of Intimacy Anorexia in response to the damage incurred by the addicted spouse.
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Common Questions About Sexual Addiction
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Caralee Frederic, LCSW, has practiced as a private couples and individual therapist in Colorado, specializing in marriage and family counseling, for almost 20 years. Founder of Principle Skills Relationship Center, Caralee is also a Certified Gottman Therapist, presenter of ‘The Art and Science of Love‘ couples workshop, and a Certified Sexual Addiction Recovery Therapist.