A PROPER AND MEANINGFUL WAY TO SAY ‘I’M SORRY’ Successful Couples Master the Art of Apology By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter The way you apologize after hurting your loved one determines whether healing will occur or hurtful feelings
A criticism may sound like this: “You never want to do anything with me or join me in things that I enjoy doing. You’re just inconsiderate and selfish.” Criticism attacks the character of the person, and it can aggressively spiral downward into larger, more difficult-to-repair
HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM OR MY SPOUSE IS AN INTIMACY ANOREXIC? By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter The following questions are used to assess whether or not a person is an intimacy anorexic. 1. Would your
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Partners living with a sex addicts often describe: Feelings of intense loneliness, distancing, confusion, deep hurt, and even betrayal. A sense of being disconnected, reaching and never being able to arrive at the
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Turn Gridlock Into Meaningful Dialogue Let’s de-clutter our lives of relationship gridlock — the perpetual arguments and contentiousness that stops us from moving forward in our most important relationships. In an earlier blog,
Criticism, One of the Four Horsemen. “Stay grounded,” I said to the couple in my office. “Don’t get on that horse.” What horse was in my third-floor office? This time it was Criticism, one of the Four Horsemen identified by Dr. John Gottman that predicts
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter “Less of Who You Should be, More of Who You Are.” I had the opportunity to be interviewed by Verilymag.com, a women’s fashion and lifestyle website. Its motto is “less of who you
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter (Excerpt from “How To Keep Love Going Strong” by John M. and Julie Gottman, yesmagazine.org, Jan. 3, 2011) Start with good manners when tackling your solvable problems: Step 1. Use a softened startup:
