By Amanda Liñan LCSW, CST Wanting to go to therapy but your partner is unwilling? Having more information about what it is, how it can help, and form expectations can really help open the door. Here are some ideas of how to approach it that
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter What happens when human connection is lost? When we become overly concerned with virtual connections? How do we fight back against obsessive technology-use in our homes? This is part 1 of a 5-part
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter The Disintegration of a Relationship is Increasingly Traced to One Thing: Failed Bids. Through my work as a couples therapist and counselor, I’ve talked with hundreds of couples in unhappy relationships and I
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter WHY I BECAME A GOTTMAN COUPLES THERAPIST Whenever friends and clients ask me to recommend a couples weekend workshop, I always refer them to the Art and Science of Love, a couples workshop
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Attending a couples weekend workshop can be a worthwhile investment in your relationship, but selecting the right workshop can be a daunting task. I conducted an extensive research into couples workshops and retreats.
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter The following questions are used to assess whether or not a person is an intimacy anorexic. 1. Would your spouse say that you stay so busy you have little time for him/her? 2.
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Can People Be Addicted to Sex? Because sex is intended to be a good, healthy, bonding experience within a marriage, it is sometimes difficult to conceive how it could be twisted into something
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Biological, Psychological, or Spiritual? This is different for every addict but generally speaking, there are biological, psychological, and spiritual reasons. The following is a brief explanation, again adapted from Dr. Weiss’ work: Biological:
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Intimacy anorexia is a paradigm developed by sex therapist and author Dr. Douglas Weiss and is used to describe a behavioral withholding addiction that mostly manifests in marriage. Intimacy anorexia is gender neutral,
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Partners living with a sex addicts often describe: Feelings of intense loneliness, distancing, confusion, deep hurt, and even betrayal. A sense of being disconnected, reaching and never being able to arrive at the
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Below are some questions developed by Dr. Doug Weiss to help you determine if you or your partner may be a sex addict: Do you have sexual behaviors you wish you could stop
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Sometimes, couples who seek therapy are facing difficulties that are especially challenging, and they may even be on the brink of divorce. Other times, couples simply come to fine-tune an already solid relationship.
What’s the difference between sex addiction and a high sex drive? Sexual libido exists on a spectrum of what is considered “normal” and healthy, and as you can imagine, is different for each person. Someone with a high sex drive is satisfied with sex and
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter Turn Gridlock Into Meaningful Dialogue Let’s de-clutter our lives of relationship gridlock — the perpetual arguments and contentiousness that stops us from moving forward in our most important relationships. In an earlier blog,
Criticism, One of the Four Horsemen. “Stay grounded,” I said to the couple in my office. “Don’t get on that horse.” What horse was in my third-floor office? This time it was Criticism, one of the Four Horsemen identified by Dr. John Gottman that predicts
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter “Less of Who You Should be, More of Who You Are.” I had the opportunity to be interviewed by Verilymag.com, a women’s fashion and lifestyle website. Its motto is “less of who you
By Caralee Frederic, LCSW | Certified Gottman Therapist | Couples Workshop Presenter (Excerpt from “How To Keep Love Going Strong” by John M. and Julie Gottman, yesmagazine.org, Jan. 3, 2011) Start with good manners when tackling your solvable problems: Step 1. Use a softened startup:
