By Amanda Liñan LCSW, CST I was listening to a video of an exotic dancer talking about her career while doing a workout today, as one does, and the age-old question of “is going to a strip club cheating?” came up. The comment section was
By Kara Facundo LPC Are you like many couples who spend hours in the therapist’s office learning the mechanics of new skills only to realize they can’t recreate it when they get home? It’s like going to the drive-through every night and expecting that you’ll
Ambivalence in Marriage? Call in: Discernment Counseling By Caralee Frederic LCSW Tom is unsure whether his marriage will make it or not. He’s had an affair, he feels guilty, but he also feels some relief and uncertainty about whether he wants to work to make
By Amanda Linan LCSW, CST There is a big difference between relational sex and recreational sex. While both can be ok depending on your circumstances, recreational sex happening too often in a romantic relationship can be a sign of bigger issues.Recreational sex is sex that
By Kara Facundo LPC Are there things in your relationship that you just don’t talk about, like a certain Harry Potter character who shall not be named? It’s too threatening, too antagonistic, too scary to be mentioned. Maybe even the slightest hint of that topic
By Kara Facundo LPC Wouldn’t it be helpful if relationships had something in place like an emergency broadcasting system? Something that sent out a loud siren alerting us to surrounding danger? You and your partner could immediately stop what you were doing and focus on
By Caralee Frederic LCSW Now, more than ever before, information is abundant and easily accessible. There’s an expert or a coach for everything–for your trauma, your career, for your friendships, for your marriage. They each come with their own instructions, assurances, recommendations. It’s a tumult
By Amanda Linan LCSW, CST As inflation continues to rise and holidays approach, many couples are feeling the stress of finances in their relationship. Money is a difficult topic for many couples in the best of circumstances, so adding additional stressors can make it feel
By Kara Facundo LPC Have you ever been working with a couples therapist, and built up your courage to bring something up to your partner, only to run out of time before coming to any type of resolution? This can be frustrating and disheartening for
By Amanda Linan LCSW, CST When working with couples, I often find myself trying to explain the importance of doing some sort of trauma work when there is trauma present for one or both individuals. Trauma is like a landmine. Imagine this: You buy a
By Amanda Linan LCSW, CST While it may seem like a silly question for a couples therapist to answer, I wanted to weigh in on this question for anyone who is really wondering if it’s worth all the cost and the hype. The answer is:
By Amanda Linan LCSW, CST The start of the school year brings up a really challenging time for couples that often continues through the holidays: how to find time for all of the things you want to do among all the chaos. I doubt anyone
By Kara Facundo LPC Have you ever wondered if an investment will be profitable over time with the ups and downs of an unsteady market? Making wise investment requires intentional understanding of the environment and discipline in riding out occasional instability. Much like financial investment,
By Kara Facundo LPC These days, the word “trauma” has become commonplace, often describing any number of minor discomforts. As a result, the notion of being traumatized by a partner’s betrayal might seem like an exaggeration, minimizing the validity of this life altering reality for
By Michelle Peterson Author One of the more common complaints I hear among my couples, particularly those with sexual desire differences, is a lack of romance. What is romance? Why is it so important? What is Romance? I like to describe romance as “words or
By Kara Facundo LPC Clients who have betrayed their partners through infidelity, emotional affair, pornography use, or other acting out behaviors often question if or how much they should confess to their loved one. Wouldn’t the full truth cause more hurt and prolong healing and
By Rob Jensen FNP-C Have you ever heard of Pavlov’s Dogs? Ivan Pavlov was a Russian practicing in the late 1800’s. He conducted an experiment where he taught dogs to salivate at the sound of a bell. That experiment led to an expansive understanding of
